It’s okay to fail- and I never thought I’d hear myself say that. It’s okay to fail.
I have read time and time again that in order to be successful, one must not fear failure. You’ve probably heard too that it takes failure to reveal success. It makes sense. I mean, along with all things comes their polar opposite. You can’t have day without night, cold without hot, and successes without failures.
Two years ago, I took a math class that changed my life. I worked long hours trying to understand; I spent countless days with headache pains. For what, I wonder? The Math Lab tutor explained to me that once I understood the concepts, my mind would change, and life would change as I knew it. Shortly after I had my final exam, I ended up being prescribed three different medications relating to stress, all of which helped at the time but that I have successfully weaned myself from.
I aim to do really well in school- it means something to me to do well at school. A scholarship is within my reach, most semesters, but tonight I wrote my Accounting exam and I failed it with definite purpose. I made a choice to put my life in my own hands and to allow myself to experience purposeful failure. It was a significant milestone for me because I have never before believed that it’s okay to fail in order to truly succeed. I've never let myself fail.
You may be asking how I am getting to the conclusion that I am better off now because of my decision to fail. There are a number of variables at play, and this is a blog. If I wrote all the variables out, you would be reading for days. Touch base with me though, if you are struggling with your own fear of failure, and perhaps I will be able to help you.
Please don't get me wrong; I didn't "just give up." I chose to fail, knowing that I was growing because of it; knowing that I made the choice consciously and that I broke through the fear of failure because of it.
On the road that leads from my school, there is a sign that reads "I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed." -Michael Jordan. Failure is a natural step in getting to where you want to be. Failure makes you more capable of succeeding, and now I know that for sure.
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